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Fear is an amazing feeling! It has significant
power over our thoughts, feelings and actions. It
takes on a "life of its own" and makes
it appear as though we have lost the discerning
power of choice in a situation. Fear can
completely rule a person's life.
So ... why is it so amazing, you might be asking?
It has been said that "The only we have to
fear is fear itself." This is quite true, for
fear is of our own making. Then, it spreads like
wildfire!
How does fear really work? First of all, each of
us creates a thought. At this juncture, it is a
neutral thought. After creating this thought, we
then determine that we are afraid about
this thought. So, now the emotion of fear is
linked to the idea/thought that we created.
To bring this into clearer focus reflect on the
fact that not everyone is afraid or experiences
fears about the same things. The race-car driver
who comfortably goes in excess of 200 miles per
hour might be afraid of the needle used for her
vaccination. The high-rise window-washer who has
no problem up on the 12th floor washing windows
might become panicked learning to swim.
So, once we have an idea that is linked to fear,
we do an incredible amnesia-thing. We absolutely
forget that the act of linking fear to that
thought was our own doing. We totally "space
out" this fact. Instead, we begin to react to
the fear as though it were a living, breathing,
awe-inspiring entity all on its own. And not just
any living, breathing, awe-inspiring entity: One
that stirs up overwhelming FEAR.
Recognizing that linking-fear-to-the-thought was
our own creation is a powerful step to gaining a
sense of mastery over what in the past may have
seemed overwhelming! Having recognized this, it is
time for the next step.
One definition of FEAR is False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
Pay attention to what that is saying. This simple
acronym suggests that something seems to be real
... and that perception is false. Or, simply
stated, we are erroneously believing something.
That something that we are believing is that we
need to fear.
Now, do not get me wrong. I am not advocating
wanton disregard for personal safety. Of course
not! It is essential that you learn to determine
the Correct Evidence Appearing Dangerous, too. If
you are standing at the edge of the Grand Canyon,
feeling nervous ... step away from the edge a
couple of feet. This is only honoring the fact
that danger is possible.
If you are feeling nervous walking up an open
stairway, by all means grab onto the handrail. You
could fall over the edge of the Grand Canyon or
off the open stairs and kill or hurt yourself.
People HAVE done so! This is not a invitation to
be foolish.
However, if you are 15 feet from the edge of the
Grand Canyon, it is time to relax and enjoy the
view; not to be so nervous that you cannot look
for the fear of it all. The Grand Canyon is
certainly an awe-inspiring sight. Profound fear
can rob you of this inspiration and pleasure.
This need not be!
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